Twin A & Twin B

I am Twin A, by the way.  We are at my mama’s house.  This picture was taken at our birthday dinner and my folks’ 40 year anniversary.  They have a wonderful marriage and have been a great example of what a real unity is supposed to be about.  Sometimes I think marriage is hard, so is parenting, homemaking, homeschooling and all the rest of the roles that I play.  Except, being a sister (to my sister, it’s been rough being a sister to my brothers) and being a girlfriend (to my girlfriends) and being a daughter has been pretty easy these last 20 years.  Isn’t it funny that my easiest relationships are with women.  One score for the lesbians there, I totally get it.  But, alas, I am not one.  I am a happily married hetero.  I’d like to blog about marriage a little bit.  It might be good for processing our relationship.  If I do all my venting here, maybe I won’t need to vent to the husband?  That’s be nice for him.  Here’s the thing, most of the time all is well.  But I think I go through a minor personality change during PMS and then my perception changes drastically, as does my fondness for the husband.  It doesn’t help that he does not take my changes with a grain of salt, but wants to talk about them.  Talk and talk and talk, until there is some sort of ‘resolve’.  Usually I just need to start my cycle, and voila! resolve happens.  Unless I’ve been forced to talk about my hormonal changes and then it takes a bit longer.  My man is very eclectic.  He’s a hard worker, family oriented, deliberate, frugal, strong, in great shape, thinks outside of the box.  Always.  He’s hard to measure up to.  Sometimes I think that I could loose my own self trying to measure up to him.  But I am great in my own hard working, family oriented, frugal, strong, not so great a shape way.  I don’t always think outside of the box, sometimes I think the box is cozy and comfortable and don’t feel the need to fix/change anything.   Mainly, I know I am not mainstream in most of my ways.  That’s ok.  Well, I guess I don’t have much more to add to this amazingly written post about marriage.  I don’t know what else to say about it at this time.  I do know our relationship is worth working on, I do know our 15 years together have been mostly wonderful, I do know.  I do know the changes we are going through will be exciting and we can get through them together.  I do know I am lucky for a good man.

Here is a picture of my sweet mom and dad.

About carishumaker

We are trying to live The Good Life with our 3 kids out in the woods. We strive to be as self reliant as possible, with a great amount of leisure time to Live The Good Life as best as we can. We work hard so we can play hard and want to teach our kids to love life and love people and love learning. This is our journey.
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