I am Twin A, by the way. We are at my mama’s house. This picture was taken at our birthday dinner and my folks’ 40 year anniversary. They have a wonderful marriage and have been a great example of what a real unity is supposed to be about. Sometimes I think marriage is hard, so is parenting, homemaking, homeschooling and all the rest of the roles that I play. Except, being a sister (to my sister, it’s been rough being a sister to my brothers) and being a girlfriend (to my girlfriends) and being a daughter has been pretty easy these last 20 years. Isn’t it funny that my easiest relationships are with women. One score for the lesbians there, I totally get it. But, alas, I am not one. I am a happily married hetero. I’d like to blog about marriage a little bit. It might be good for processing our relationship. If I do all my venting here, maybe I won’t need to vent to the husband? That’s be nice for him. Here’s the thing, most of the time all is well. But I think I go through a minor personality change during PMS and then my perception changes drastically, as does my fondness for the husband. It doesn’t help that he does not take my changes with a grain of salt, but wants to talk about them. Talk and talk and talk, until there is some sort of ‘resolve’. Usually I just need to start my cycle, and voila! resolve happens. Unless I’ve been forced to talk about my hormonal changes and then it takes a bit longer. My man is very eclectic. He’s a hard worker, family oriented, deliberate, frugal, strong, in great shape, thinks outside of the box. Always. He’s hard to measure up to. Sometimes I think that I could loose my own self trying to measure up to him. But I am great in my own hard working, family oriented, frugal, strong, not so great a shape way. I don’t always think outside of the box, sometimes I think the box is cozy and comfortable and don’t feel the need to fix/change anything. Mainly, I know I am not mainstream in most of my ways. That’s ok. Well, I guess I don’t have much more to add to this amazingly written post about marriage. I don’t know what else to say about it at this time. I do know our relationship is worth working on, I do know our 15 years together have been mostly wonderful, I do know. I do know the changes we are going through will be exciting and we can get through them together. I do know I am lucky for a good man.
Here is a picture of my sweet mom and dad.