Teens’ Internal Compass



We sat down recently and made some very general goals for our kids.  Now that they are older, I think it’s a good idea to know what direction we are headed and let them know the goals we have for them.  It was nice for Isaac and I to sit down and come up with this.  It’s not a road map of exactly what we want them to achieve, it’s our direction.  What we do daily should match up with one of the goals.  Obviously, we are weird.  Our goals and your goals are probably different.  We’d like them to be self reliant, have their own business, love to travel, homeschool our grandkids, love nature and travel.  The bottom line, though, is we want them to be fulfilled, happy people.  We will, undoubtedly, love them no matter what life they pursue. But hopefully we are setting their internal compass in the direction of a more organic lifestyle than mainstream life offers.  Here is what we came up with:

    • Look back at their time growing up as a joy-filled time, full of creativity, fun adventure and new experiences.
    • They should have a wide variety of experiences while they are still with us, that we can watch over and supervise. They should feel that while their path is narrow, their possibilities are not and that their minds are broad, with a view of the world made by experiences and people, not a view made by television and computers.
  • School at home through 10th grade. Go to OC for 11th and 12th grade and maybe one more year.       Graduate at 19 with a high school diploma and an associates degree. This is the completion of formal academia overseen by us. I want them to feel well-educated and that they will look back on their time homeschooling and feel that they learned enough about the world, history, science, math, ability to communicate with proper grammar and a wide range of vocabulary to make intelligent decisions and to be able to clearly and efficiently communicate their ideas with others. I want them to be able to manage their own small business and never feel the need to be on a payroll of someone else, making someone else rich.       They will be self reliant.       They will know how to manage incoming and outgoing finances and to manage a very self sufficient homestead.       They will know we did a good job equipping them for their unconventional real life.
  • Learn to kiteboard, rock climb, mountain climb, travel well, backpack, be adventurous.       Find way more value in nature and adventure than in things.
  • Get a vehicle at 16.
  • Have at least one girlfriend during their late teenage years before they ever think of getting married.
  • Learn the local area and be able to go hiking/climbing/playing outside as much as they can.
  • At 16 or 17 start a small landscaping business. Earning money for travels or for their future land by helping /teaching primarily edible landscaping. This is a useful and needed skill that they could be very successful at and have a feeling of providing something good and need and getting paid in cash for.
  • I also want them to be able to travel extensively as young adults. Hopefully following their kiteboarding/mountaineering life to awesome places. They would be able to work as landscapers for the spring, summer and fall and be able to take off to travel for the winter.



About carishumaker

We are trying to live The Good Life with our 3 kids out in the woods. We strive to be as self reliant as possible, with a great amount of leisure time to Live The Good Life as best as we can. We work hard so we can play hard and want to teach our kids to love life and love people and love learning. This is our journey.
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1 Response to Teens’ Internal Compass

  1. Eva Varga says:

    I like the goal, “Graduate … with a high school diploma and an associates degree.” 🙂

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